Judy Lederman, 49, couldn’t stand her ex-husband’s constant nagging about the 80 extra pounds she was hauling around.
“He said he didn’t want to be seen with me and called me names,” says Lederman, of Scarsdale, N.Y. “It was abusive. I felt like a dartboard.”
The more her ex insulted her, the worse Lederman felt about herself, and the more she ate. If that weren’t bad enough, when she finally dropped the weight, her husband brought her cookies.
“He was jealous,” she explains. Not surprisingly, the marriage ended in divorce.
Lederman’s husband’s behavior was obnoxious, but not unusual, experts say. Belittling a loved one about being too fat and then undermining efforts to lose weight are common mistakes among couples, says psychologist Amy Gorin, a Brown Medical School weight-loss researcher.
Telling your partner it’s time to lose weight can be tricky, but it’s something many couples grapple with these days. Close to two-thirds of U.S. adults are overweight or obese, an almost 50 percent increase from 30 years ago, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Then there’s “the marriage penalty” problem. Five years after saying “I do,” married people on average gain six to nine more pounds than their single counterparts, a recent study of young adults by University of North Carolina researchers suggests.
Having the talk is worth it. Not only can your partner's health be affected by excess weight, but packing on the pounds can weigh on the relationship in other ways. An overweight spouse may not be as physically appealing to you or may not even feel like being physically intimate.
So, how do you convince your partner to slim down — without doing more harm than good?
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